Baby Loss + The Holiday Season

Well, as we are now entering into the holiday season I’m sure many of you are feeling a wave of intense emotions coming over you. Something about getting together with family and creating memories brings out all of the should’ve … Continue reading

What Not To Say After Someone Loses A Baby

Here are examples of things not to say to someone that has lost a baby and also a little insight to what they might be thinking when they hear them. 1.) You are young. Don’t worry. You will have more. … Continue reading

“How are you?”

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How many times do you answer fine when inside you feel crushed? And how many times do you ask, “How are you?” with no intention of truly engaging with the person? It’s time we take down our walls.

When grieving the loss of a baby we want to be supported. In fact it’s often answering in this way that shuts everyone out. Tell others how you’re feeling. Of course you’ll be more open with certain people but I think you’ll see that God has placed others in your life to be his hands and feet to minister to you. But they can’t minister if you don’t give them the opportunity.

In general we could all stand to be more intentional about our interaction with one another. When we ask someone how they are it’s saying we want to know and care.

I have two very vulnerable questions I want you to ask yourself.

How can I be more intentional with the people in my life?

How can I begin to tear down the walls and allow others to minister to me?

This is something God has really been laying on my heart lately. I pray that this sparks a flame inside of you to live life more intentionally with others as you grieve the loss of a baby.

So, “How are you?”