What Not To Say After Someone Loses A Baby

Here are examples of things not to say to someone that has lost a baby and also a little insight to what they might be thinking when they hear them. 1.) You are young. Don’t worry. You will have more. … Continue reading

Why An Awareness Month?

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.

It’s not about the need for attention or relishing in a pity party.
What it’s about is telling your story and raising the awareness of the general public to this kind of loss. And it’s about being there for others that have similar stories.

So I challenge you to seize this opportunity. Speak out. Others need to hear your story. It’s only then that the silence will break. We need to let the world know that we’re not overreacting. We’re grieving.

Tell your story.

Break the silence.

Share one another’s burden.

“How are you?”

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How many times do you answer fine when inside you feel crushed? And how many times do you ask, “How are you?” with no intention of truly engaging with the person? It’s time we take down our walls.

When grieving the loss of a baby we want to be supported. In fact it’s often answering in this way that shuts everyone out. Tell others how you’re feeling. Of course you’ll be more open with certain people but I think you’ll see that God has placed others in your life to be his hands and feet to minister to you. But they can’t minister if you don’t give them the opportunity.

In general we could all stand to be more intentional about our interaction with one another. When we ask someone how they are it’s saying we want to know and care.

I have two very vulnerable questions I want you to ask yourself.

How can I be more intentional with the people in my life?

How can I begin to tear down the walls and allow others to minister to me?

This is something God has really been laying on my heart lately. I pray that this sparks a flame inside of you to live life more intentionally with others as you grieve the loss of a baby.

So, “How are you?”

“When a child l…

“When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes.” ~President Ronald Reagan

In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. All across the country walks and candle vigils are done to remember babies lost and raise awareness.  I hope you are involved in raising awareness in your community.

Of course, you can do this by sharing your story. Let’s unsilence our grief in October because not only will it let others see how many women are affected but it is better to grieve with others than alone. And, remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Suffering In Silence

Women lose babies every day in so many different ways. Often they are left to grieve alone; questioning so much about themselves. This video is meant to bring awareness and be a voice to their silent pleas.

Please share this video. May it minister God’s peace within the hearts of those dealing with a loss and enlighten everyone else’s to acknowledge the struggle.

Grace and Peace,

Melissa

Copyright 2013 Melissa Reddin